But I do believe in modern prophets and that God gives no commandment that is not for our own happiness. So I'm wondering if things will ever change or if this is just one of the drawbacks of dating a doctor. Communicate and get those answers, OP. And after years of this struggle, will your love for him and desire to avoid the hassle cause you to reduce your activation. You can't force her to change, nor should you if you could. I understand the sacrifice that it takes to become a doctor, but I am not sure if he does. You are not a worthy RM priesthood holder. You all are strong for staying but I just don't see how it is possible long term to live like this.
But I was unusual in that I never really wanted to convert my husband I was worried I'd have to divorce him if he turned true Mormon and he didn't need me to believe way he does. Little did I know that at least some of these "emergencies" were actually rendezvous with his affair partner. I feel to say, if you hear this, Amy, in time, it will all come round right. Do know that dating an MD, there will be plenty of unexpected changes when you two have plans, and you will need to have strength and be able to entertain yourself at times. She is passionate about it. The Church encourages you to use dating as an opportunity to show your respect not just for others, but for yourself.
I look forward to reading more. If your relationship is moving forward, or she suggests doing something more expensive, it is not inappropriate for her to help pay as well. Mormonism is a big thing for those who follow the faith, so Sundays and the occasional event depending on how much she does extra might distract her. Earlier I mentioned "Even if the church believes a bunch of crazy nonsense, and she believes it too, I still really like her and would like to see whether we can have some good intellectual conversations about this stuff. Like it was mentioned above, see how she deals some of the issues now and if she can't handle it, it might be better to find someone else. I've moved to be with him for med school, then we moved again for residency and just moved again for fellowship.